Find time to read this ,very true.
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A patient came to see me about the stress in her life.  
She described all the things she had to do -- one was 
to make her bed -- from the moment she woke up until 
she flew out the door for work.  I suggested she experiment
by not making her bed for two weeks.  She was appalled, 
probably thinking I'd been raised by wolves in a forest.  
However, she went along with my idea. Two weeks later 
she breezed into my office beaming.  She had left her
bed unmade for the first time in 42 years -- and nothing 
bad had happened. "And you know what?"  she said,"I don't 
dry my dishes anymore, either." This woman had made two 
major breakthroughs.  One was discovering that she
had choices in her life that she had never seen before.  
The other was giving herself permission to
be less than perfect.  It was a watershed experience.


This story illustrates an important principle about managing
time: No one can do it all.  Each of us has to make choices
and accept trade-offs.  The problem is, many people choose 
in ways that put themselves and their health last.

They take better care of their houses and cars than 
they do of themselves.They put everyone else's needs ahead 
of their own.  That's fine if it's occasional.
It would even be okay if there was a balance.  But most 
people living that way are wearing themselves out, feeling 
out of ontrol.Fortunately, life doesn't have to be like that.

One phrase can be very helpful:  It's the name of a book 
by Sol Gordon and Harold Brecher,Life is Uncertain ... 
Eat Dessert First! If good stuff always gets left until last, 
it usually doesn't happen. Work before health and pleasure 
soon becomes work instead of health and pleasure.

Notice how it happens:  Folks get busy and run short of 
time; they stop exercising or start skipping meals; 
next they steal time from their sleep. Soon they get too busy 
to see friends; they stop reading or playing ball, and six months
go by without a long walk.  That's not a great way to live.
And don't kid yourself:  Fax machines and cellular phones 
don't save time but merely speed up the already hectic pace 
of life.  Trying to be more efficient isn't the key, either.
That's just a way of cramming more into less time -- when we 
really should be aiming to do less and enjoy it more.

So what is the solution?  In a word, prioritize.  Decide what 
you want in your life, and put that first.  On a daily basis, 
that should include regular meals,adequate sleep and time with 
your family.  Exercise, leisure,friendships and hobbies should 
also be regular aspects of life. The point is to do something 
for yourself every day.

The choice is yours: whatever makes you feel good 
about yourself and your life.  Take a nap.  Take a walk.  
Take time to play the piano.  Of course, you'll have to 
trade off some of the things that are currently clogging
your schedule to make room for your new priorities. 
Stop bringing your briefcase home from the office.  
Stop keeping your house as clean as your mother kept hers.  
Fill more of your time with want-to-dos instead of
have-to-dos.  Add your name to the list of people you're 
trying to make happy.  Not "me first" or "me only" but "me, too."

Balance is the goal.
Permission is the key.
And the time to start is now.

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"Relish the moment" is a good motto.
It isn't the burdens of today that drive men mad.
It is the regrets over yesterday and the fears of tomorrow.
Regret and fear are twin thieves who rob us of today.